For example, at a very young age, I once accused my mom of trying to "control my life". My (extremely short-term) punishment was that she would not help me with anything... So, the next morning, I got my own breakfast. And, while, you're probably thinking "so what?", I should explain that I was too small to reach any of the kitchen cupboards. I had to pull a chair into the kitchen and climb up on the counter to find cereal and a bowl. Meanwhile, my mom was watching from another room and trying not to let on how upset she was by her tiny daughter's independence.
Not much has changed.
So, when the wedding plans and projects began, I happily took them all on myself. Many friends and family came forward with offers to help. I told them that I would let them know and figured that would never actually happen. I mean, how could I make sure everything was exactly to my specifications if I wasn't 100% in control of it all?
Perhaps one of my biggest fears was that if I let people help and they weren't doing things exactly the way I wanted them to be done, I would have to confront them... And, confrontations? Those are even lower on my list of likes.
But, as the "100 days till our wedding" mark neared and passed, I've had to make a few more concessions... So, I'm working with my mom on crafts (even letting her do some of the work when I'm not around!). And, the FI's family is helping with a lot of the Mexican related decoration items.
It's hard to give up any control, but my FI's reaction to his mom's offer to make some crepe paper flowers did make me feel a bit better... He questioned her so many times about how the flowers would look that she promised photos of the first few to make sure the quality was up to his expectations.
At least its not just me.
Did you have a hard time asking for or letting people help you? Did you have to re-do any of the projects because they weren't what you would have done yourself? Or, did you happily give up control over plans and projects? (If so, I envy you.)
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